A Bit Like That Fella off The Ipcress Files

I’ve mentioned this before in a number of posts but it’s such a feature of my everyday life I think it’s inevitable that it will just keep coming up from time to time.

It’s about me and people’s names and how I have such great difficulty in keeping them in my head. 

I’ve worked at it, I really have. I focus on it when I’m meeting people. I try all the tricks, I repeat your name back to you when you tell it to me. I associate your name with some image in my head, I make a rhyme out of it. Nothing works.  

People tell me it’s a sort of laziness, even a type of arrogance. I’m so interested in what I am about to say to you that I can’t even be bothered hearing you say your own name to me, letting it register. I don’t know about all that. I hope it’s not true. All I know is that I would really like to be able to remember your name and say it back to you as a common courtesy whenever we meet, just like regular people do.

Instead, in an attempt to treat people equally, I will use nobody’s name. Even close friends, whose names I do know, will be treated with a generic ‘Hiya’ or ‘How’s it going?’, probably to draw attention away from the fact that I really don’t know the name of the guy standing next to you.

Anyway, whenever I start with a little spiel about this failing of mine, it invariably leads to an anecdote to illustrate the social problems it regularly lands me into. 

Here’s today’s one.

A while back, I was sitting in a coffee place having a coffee when the door opened and a guy came in. He was carrying a fair-sized steel case of the kind that photographers sometimes use. He looked around and then turned to the lady behind the counter and had a few quiet words with her.

Then he came down the room to find himself a seat. He passed my table, his case almost brushing my leg.

Then he was gone past.

Except he wasn’t.

“Ken Armstrong?” A hand was suddenly extended down towards me and was duly shaken. “Is that really you?”

It was. It was really me.

“I haven’t seen you since National School. You haven’t changed a bit. Well… A bit of ‘timber’ here and there maybe but we all have that, eh? eh? Can I sit down? Do you mind? It’s great to see you!”

Then silence. Expectant silence. He sat down and looked across at me expectantly.

Here’s the thing. I knew who he was. He hadn’t changed all that much either. A bit of ‘timber’ but we all had that. He was the guy from St. John’s National School. He lived out the road a bit. We had hung together now and again a bit and had even gone to see a Bruce Lee flick together once. He was okay, one of the good ones.

I know all this…

But what the hell was his name?

My mind ran though thousands of possibilities as I kept up a passable discussion about times gone by and where various people are now. As each of those people's names were mentioned, I mentally ticked it off my long list of what this person might be called.

The lady from behind the counter approached our table.

“He can see you now,” she said to him, this guy, whatsisface.

“Great!” the guy got up, "I have to see the manager. I sell restaurant fittings for a living and he has a query. I’ll show you the stuff when I come back, If you like. I’ll only be a few minutes.”

Great. He went off to see the manager, leaving me with his case. 

Sometimes there’s an odd thing that works for me. If I can’t think of something, If I ask myself the question out loud, the answer sometimes comes to me. I know it sounds strange but it’s true and it seems to work better the older I get. Desperate measures, perhaps.

“What is that guy’s name?” I asked myself and I must have said it a little too loudly because several people at other tables glared over at me. It was a wasted effort in any event because it didn’t work. 

If only there was someone I could call and ask the guy’s name. But who? Who? They mightn’t be available in any case…

Wait. Wait.

Case?

The Case.

His name would be in his case. On some letter or document or something. Maybe even inscribed on the inside for security reasons.

All I had to do was look inside his case, quickly, before he came back.

But I couldn’t do that. 

It just wouldn’t be right.

The case opened easily, there was no lock. It perched a little uneasily on the small table, between the coffees and the milk. It creaked a little as it opened. It was packed full with trade literature about kitchen fittings and such. And there, on a business card, tucked in a pouch inside the lid, was his name. Of course that was his name! How could I have forgotten that? His name was_

“What are you doing?”

“Hi. You’re back quick.”

“What are you doing in my case?”

“Ah, yes, it’s interesting really.”

“Yes?”

“Yes. You see… when you mentioned kitchen fittings, I’m kind of in the business myself and I was very curious to see exactly what it was you sold.”

“I see,” he certainly might have seen but he looked managed to look hurt and invaded, “you could have waited until I came back.”

“Yes. Sorry” I said and then I said his name. It was great to know it. 

It was an awful experience, obviously. The nervousness of breaking into the case, the getting caught. The slightly iffy cover story.

Awful, yes.

But, just for a minute there, riffling through those files illicitly, in danger of being discovered at any moment, I felt... edgy... alive.

A little bit like that fella off  'The Ipcress Files'.

What was his name again?

7 comments:

seoirse mac enri said...

Nice post Ken, an ironic if trival fact springs to mind re 'The Ipcress File. Initially the lead character of the book was never named. Michael Caine & Harry Saltzman over lunch discussed a name, Caine proposed Palmer ,as he was at school with a guy of that name, couldn't remember him much or his 1st name, Saltzman wanted the name to be very ordinary to which Caine added What about Harry , Harry Palmer. Hope your keeping well Sir
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Jim Murdoch said...

Even before my memory started to go I was the same, Ken. Perversely I have an excellent memory for faces. At least I think I still have. The main way I get to test that is with the TV. One of the things that both Carrie and I get a great kick out of is spot-the-actor. Whenever a new show comes on we both try to identify where we’ve seen the actors before. Their names aren’t especially important. For example, Carrie and I have just finished watching the latest series of Happy Valley and there was a (can we still use ‘retarded’?) character who we both recognised: Pythagoras from Atlantis. The bad cop was Mr Molesley from Downton Abbey. In Doctor Thorne last night Annie from Community made an appearance. It doesn’t matter that Alison Brie’s been in another fifty-odd films and television shows she’s Annie from Community.

The names of characters are quite another matter. Let’s think, who from Community can I remember after five seasons? Jack, Pierce, Sanjay, the guy who’s in Dr Ken now, the guy who’s in Master of None now, the girl who reminds me of the girl who was in all those Police Academy films only it’s not her… You see what I mean. It’s not Sanjay, it’s Abed. And it’s not Jack, it’s Jeff. Well at least I got Pierce although I thought that was his last name to be honest. Sanjay is from The Simpsons. I probably wouldn’t do much better with The Big Bang Theory although I could probably name the crew of most of the Enterprises (including the Enterprise-C); I just checked and the captain was Rachel Garrett and here I thought it was Lesley Garrett who’s actually an opera singer.

In the real world I tend to call women ‘pet’ which saves having to remember anyone’s name. Men I don’t call anything. I always hated starting a new job when you were suddenly faced with twenty or thirty names you pretty much had to get down within a couple of days to save offending anyone. I can’t recall having any real trouble in that regard. Having an extension list as an aide-memoire is always a help.

Ken Armstrong said...

Hi G. Thanks. I did know this story about the unnamed character from Deighton's books. It's one of the reasons I name checked him in the post. What I had forgotten was that there was a fourth 'Palmer' novel that was never filmed, called Horse Under Water. I'll have to seek that one out. Always liked a bit of Deighton.

Jim: We loved Community here. I was going to correct you on Abed but you beat me to it. I think the final series went astray (and so did I) but it was so self aware and funny and Annie had a charm all of her own. :)

John O'Sullivan said...

Ha I have the same problem, I always had,but I find its much easier here in Australia, they love name badges, its a bit of a giveaway but you do have to learn to be able to glance at their name badge while saying hello and not being too obvious and just to keep the mystery I hardly ever wear mine!

Karen Redman said...

I know this syndrome SO well. I find it most dreadfully embarrassing. I can remember not only people's faces but also can often repeat conversations that we'd had years ago verbatim and even remember their car registration numbers and land line telephone numbers. All useful/useless information is there except the one at the very top of the list of useful column. A name. I reckon it's some sort of reverse synaesthesia. I would like it to stop. Or I would like the entire human population to wear name badges.

Ken Armstrong said...

John: So long as yours says 'Sullie'. :)

Karen: Wouldn't name badges be just great? :)

John O'Sullivan said...

If it did it would be great but alas no it dosnt, maybe that's why I don't wear it!!